The topic of having a child was broached during dinner at my in-laws' yesterday. MIL is obviously getting impatient with hubby's refusal to sucuumb to societal norm of starting a family and living happily ever after. Hubs has his own views about parenthood. He likens having a child to taking drugs. "You get high everytime they say "mummy" & "daddy" but then it's cold turkey and suffering for the rest of the time." He also feels that it is unfair for a child to be brought into this "world of suffering" against his/her wish.
So how do I feel about all this? Well, I do think that it's selfish of hubs to be making a decision as major as this on his own. I do wonder if I would be having 3 kids by now if I were married to someone else. And what kind of mother would I make? When I am older and my ovaries shrivelled, will I look back and regret not having made my stand? And yet, another part of me secretly embraces the freedom I am having right now - the freedom to do whatever I want..whenever I want. Less commitment. Less stress. (Right, M?)
But then again, plans/views may change. We'll see when the time comes...
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Yeah, kids can be really tough. We haven't gone to an actual movie theater in years! - M
Get a babysitter! You need your couple time every now and then. Rekindle that love! ;)
Ah, I understand your sentiments completely. My husband refuses to "succumb to societal norm" as well. He said that having kids is like suicide, especially in this day of age. Anyway, we are waiting and see for the time being.
I like to think that I still have an year or two before I need to get serious.
I'm not feeling particularly maternal at this point in time but my biological clock is certainly ticking away! Oh well, we'll see...:P
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